An essential tool for Pharmacy or the Spawn of Satan?

Organic Chemistry is an essential/ necessary subject for all biology/chemistry students...Or is it? Majority of the students who I know have taken this class HATE this class soo much. And now I have joined this club. It's not that I don't understand the concepts. The problem is that it's alot of information for one semester... In one chapter alone there are 16 reactions and mechanisms that have to be memorized and they all resemble each other. There are only subtle differences which have to be memorized and one simple mistake like where the charge goes or where the the molecule is suppose to be could make the whole problem wrong....Anyway, my point is that this class should be made two semesters for each part. Its just too much. My advice to anyone who is going to take this class is that you have to eat, sleep and dream the text book when you take it. It is a ridiculous amount of information and it can be overwhelming.... I think I've lost maybe 5 pounds studying for my final...SMH

This is how I feel when I think about Organic...

Get HIP to the HIP-LIFE

African Music is about the best way to dance your troubles away and have a good time. These songs are a few of my favorites. If you didn't know then now you do.....

Brutha- "Vacancy" Coming to you soon!

So this should've been posted like weeks ago but I was slacking...Smh lool Anywho... These gentlemen are basically the only R&B guy group out there nowadays and their music is just lovely.My favorite song is "She's Gone". Apart from that they are just one the most gorgeous group of young men that I've seen since B2K, And let me tell you I was a HUGE B2K fan *Sigh* Memories. Anyway, Their album "VACANCY" well be coming out very soon and I know all my Brutha fans and Brutha Souljas are super excited as am I. Well if you aren't hip to Brutha check out some of their songs and get with the program.

She's the Black Barbie!

Nicki Minaj......There are soo many things one can say about this artist. When she first came out I really didn't like her AT ALL... I felt the whole fake barbie thing was a bit too much... But now I've taken the time to actually listen to some of her music and I think she's pretty cool...Her rap game is VERY different from other rappers out there today and she is DEFINITELY not shy to talk about things that upset her or make her happy. Now don't get it wrong I'm not a Minaj fanatic now or anything, I just have respect for her and her craft now.

Babies= Accessories? umm..WHY?

Birth is one of life’s most beautiful events. A child is a blessing (Even thou some of them act like Bebe’s kids..smh). Children are the pride and joy of a parent’s heart and they would die for their child. Back in the day having a kid at a young age, say maybe 16, was a complete disgrace. Girls were even scared to go to school because of the ridicule. Nowadays it seems like a baby has become the new bracelet or purse, basically an accessory; almost everyone I see has one.(WTF?) Girls get pregnant and walk around like it’s nothing. They feel no shame. Infact, many girls are happy to be pregnant. They come to school showing off their bellies like “Yea, I’m having a baby”. Making seem like it’s acceptable to have a baby in HIGH SCHOOL. And then, there is this dumb show called Teen Mom on MTV, which perpetuates and encourages teen pregnancy. I find that to be absolutely ridiculous. I’ll be damned if I or my child were to ever have a baby in HIGH SCHOOL and walk around like it’s all good. Honestly, I partially blame the parents of these girls and the girls themselves. Parents I feel either don’t educate their kids enough about sex and teenage pregnancy or put enough fear in their daughters about getting pregnant. My mom, grandma, aunts and ALL my mom’s female friends put enough fear in me for myself AND my children. I was told if I got pregnant they would kill me POINT.BLANK.PERIOD. Also I’m smart enough to take the necessary precautions to not get pregnant like let’s say using a CONDOM or the PILL or maybe NOT HAVING SEX AT ALL =ABSTINENCE! Now I understand that sometimes accidents happen but if you are tracking yourself like you should be you can prevent pregnancy. There is something called the MORNING AFTER PILL which basically stops the sperm from entering the egg. Girls, in this day and age, there is no reason for anyone to call us stupid and uneducated. Maybe back during the early 20th century, that would have been a valid excuse of “oh I didn’t know”, but it doesn’t count now. Children are a great thing. They are a blessing but there is a time and a place for everything. Kids shouldn’t come until you have a stable job and home and can support yourself and your family.

It’s a shame. Many couples in this world can’t even have kids and young girls are just popping them out like it’s a game..SMH

Women, Women, Women.....

In my last blog I addressed some of the faults that I saw in men. This blog is now going to address some of the flaws I see in some women. Honestly I don’t know where to begin because women are such complicated creatures that one cannot even begin to understand why we do certain things and I am a woman. I realize that we thrive on emotions and every decision we make is based upon how we feel and as a result different situations affect our behavior drastically (Ok so not drastically but there is a significant affect). I understand that many women have been brought up in different environments and that not every woman is as strong and confident as she should be. This particular blog is directed to females who KNOW better and were taught how to be confident, strong and successful. This is directed to girls who have influential women in their lives, be it friends or family members, who are real WOMEN: strong; confident; classy; educated; etc, and choose to stray from the advice that these women may give them.
Women, Why on earth would you allow a man to mistreat you when you know you deserve better? Why would you EVER let a man set a double standard for you and you just go along with it? I mean I’m very sure you have friends who tell you that this guys isn’t right for you and they present logical explanations why, so then why would you stay with this guy? I mean are you unaware that there are other guys out there in this world who will treat you like the queen that you are? Are you unaware that there is a man out there who will love you unconditionally and never put his hands on you or call you out of your name EVER? These men, believe it or not DO exist. A man who will love you and all your flaws; a man who will encourage you to follow your dreams and not bring you down; a man who will be your rock when you need him to be; a man who will be your knight in shining armor; that man exists in his own form for every woman. I say to you my sisters, mothers and friends, do not accept the reckless behavior of uneducated boys. Stand up for yourself. I’m not saying for you to set impossible standards but reasonable ones. Don’t take a man’s behavior as “oh it’s just a guy thing”. BULL FUCKING SHIT!!! There is no such thing. Guys only do certain things because we allow them to do it. If you make it known in the beginning what you will take and what you won’t (subtly of course), I can promise you that what you had in your past relationships will not repeat itself. A few of my male friends told me that a lot of the decisions men make are based on the actions of women. If you respect yourself and you walk through your life demanding respect with your level of education, swag, and presence then NO man will ever try to treat you wrong. And listen to your friends please when they give you reasonable advice. I know there are those friends who are just haters but if you take a second to really think about what your friends tell you I’m sure someone will give you reasonable advice. A couple reasons that I have heard, for women to tolerate such primitive behavior is because they need the man or they love him. First of all, no woman NEEDS a man. We only want them because of the way they make us feel and the companionship. Learning to stand alone is part of being a strong woman. When you can stand on your own two feet without a man to depend upon, in a relationship you won’t be so dependent on him. Secondly, Love is a beautiful thing, however it can be very blinding if you allow it to be. The love of a man is something that is hard to acquire in a lot of relationships. Many men don’t love easily because that’s just their nature but when they really love you, they really LOVE you. When a guy loves you, You can tell. He might do things that are out of the ordinary and surprise you and make you smile. A man who loves you will NEVER put his hands on you EVER!!! Don’t let anyone tell you any different. Nor will he ever call you out of your name, even if y’all are arguing. If a man ever does that then either he has a problem that needs to be fixed ASAP or you are allowing him or he’s just a jerk and you need to exit now ( don’t collect $200 or pass go) You just need to get out.
We, women, have many faults but this is a fault that I've seen which is ever so present in, not just in Western societies but also in third world countries where women are born into submissive positions. Women everywhere should not allow any behavior of this kind to happen. I believe that if we allow ourselves to remain in this position and not renew our self esteem and pride, we perpetuate the primitive and classless behavior of some men.

Men....

There are many things that I will never understand about men and their behavior. I know that men grow up and different environments and have different experiences that shape their behavior. As a result I know that not all men behave in the same manner. This particular blog is directed to the few men who have "difficulties" in relationships; the men who allow the bad things in their past to shape how they express themselves towards women. In my short years of living, I have learned a lot about how men act towards certain things and how their behavior is "in general".I accredit this to my experiences and the experiences of my older friends. One thing I don't understand is why would you allow your past experiences make you cold and make you build up barriers around your heart and feelings especially towards a woman who had opened herself to you and humbled herself down to show you that you can trust her? Why would u continue to hold back? In a past relationship I encountered a young man whose reactions to certain things, in my opinion, were not "normal". When I asked him to stop a behavior that was hindering our relationship and plainly was either annoying or disrespectful to me he would say well "That's just how I am and I'm not gonna change." And when I would ask if he was put in the same situation would it not bother him, his response was "Nope. It wouldn't." I don't think that is a "normal" response because someone who had "normal" reactions would care about how the problem was affecting me and at least try to change or offer a better solution than just stopping completely. If it was truly upsetting to me, he should be willing to stop completely because that is how a relationship works. It's give-and-take. I compromise and change some things and you do the same. That is how people in a relationship grow and flourish and find deep, true love....

If you know that you have no intention on being in a committed relationship with a young woman, why would u string her along and then tell her u need a "break" and offer that you never really wanted a girlfriend in the first place? That is a situation that frustrates me to the core of my being. I believe I can speak for all women when I say, Make your intentions known at the beginning of the relationship. If you know you don't want anything serious, let her know that. If you are interested in something serious but you get scared somewhere along the way, TELL HER!!! Don't leave her hanging and just break it off with some lame excuse because you are afraid. We, women, are all about emotions and feelings and the expression of such things whether we admit to it or not. We like to know what is going on in your heart and head. We also like to know that we are both on the same page as far as the relationship goes....

Speaking of a "BREAK". What in the world is a BREAK? In my opinion, a break is ONLY reserved for couples that have gone through it all. Couples who are in the worst part of their relationships and it seems like a break is the only possible answer. All other relationships don't need breaks. If your relationship is going well and you're both getting along, you don not need a break if you decide to get serious. You can take it slowly and have a conversation about both party's feelings. I PROMISE you that taking a break will NEVER show you if you miss someone. It will only tear you apart because if you didn't know, there is always someone out there looking to take your woman. Another man is watching you and hoping you will make a mistake to make room for him to step in....

That brings me to another point. Like I said, men, there is always another man looking for you to mess up. If you have a woman who is trying as hard as she can to be good to you, cooking; cleaning; changing little things about themselves for you, and you treat her with cold emotions and do whatever you want hoping she will just take it as "just men behaving like men", another man will come along and treat her the way you are not and say the things you should be saying to her. Moreover, her friends will talk things in her ear and encourage her to leave you for this "other" man. You know how some friends are. If they don't like you from the beginning they will jump at the chance to get rid of you when the opportunity comes.
This is just a few of the many things that I see wrong in relationships. I am NOT saying that women are not also part of the issue. This blog is just talking about some points from a woman's perspective.

The Amazment of American Minds

I am an African who has lived in the United States for about 10 years and through out all these years, the questions and comments that I still receive leave me at a loss for words and very frustrated. "So do you ride elephants in your back yard and hunt lions?" "Do y'all walk around naked all the time?" I mean I understand that the reason why people ask such STUPID questions is because of the perception given by the media. However, the media also shows a different side of Africa ALL the time. Whenever u see advertisements about AIDS in Africa, you don't see little children running around naked all over the place waving at the cameras.(ok so some of the kids are naked, but that's because the chose to be naked at that moment in time) You don't see the families of the AIDS victims sitting around in their "Mud Huts" naked talking to the people helping them out. The reason why I get angry at the STUPID questions is because America is supposed to be at the forefront of technology and information, yet it seems like the people living in this country do not know how to utilize their resources well. This lack of information I blame on the school system, but that's another blog. I come from a place that I happen to be very proud of. My country, Ghana,(Who just so happen to beat the US a few days ago in the World Cup 2-1,YAY! lol) is one of the few countries in Africa that trying their best to bring the country to the standards we see here in the states and I believe they have done a very good job so far. Ghana has the ONLY mall in West Africa. We do the same things that y'all do here there. We go clubbing, go to school, beach, church, house parties and we do it in clothes that people in this country can only dream of designing. We wear the same clothes y'all do here. We hold political elections, we have a president AND a parliament AND a king. We make all three systems work for us (all by the grace of GOD). Another thing that bothers me is the weather comments. Yea, Africa can get hot at times but not that hot and do you know that in Southern and South Africa it SNOWS? Yea like REAL SNOW! In Norther Ghana we get hail stones. And even when it gets hot we still have a cool breeze ALL the time. All you people who are constantly making rude comments and jokes about Africa I say this to you: 1, Get your facts straight before you come talking about my motherland and STOP being the ignorant loser who doesn't know how to use google. 2, I LOVE my continent and the way it works, if you don't like it well you can go jump off a bridge and kill yourself.