tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23102217552728720342024-03-06T00:00:07.551-08:00Thoughts Of An African Girl"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."- Nelson MandelaUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-31099531562579890722012-06-03T23:59:00.000-07:002012-06-04T13:19:40.107-07:00Working for the Lord and not for the world.Lately, I've been confused about my career path and what my purpose is and what I'm suppose to be doing with myself and I've been trying to figure it out. I have also been trying to get closer to God and make my faith stronger in the Lord and an interesting thing happened to me tonight. I've been praying and asking God to show me the way and to use me as his vessel. Always I ask myself "what do you want to do with your life?" but the better question I should have been asking was "What do I want to do with my life to better serve God?". We as God's children are spiritual beings living in a physical world. We are <i>in</i> this world but we are not <i>of</i> this world.<br />
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Music is my passion and my heart's desire. It is the one thing in my life that I am sure of. It makes me happy when I listen to music or sing. It is the one talent that I have that I can use to praise and worship God wholeheartedly. It is what I would like to pursue a career in as a teacher or a professor or a performer. I believe that pursuing music would bring me closer to God and help in the spread of His word because there is music in Church. I believe that I can interest children in coming to church more often by teaching them the word through music but also by teaching them how to play instruments or to sing. It could benefit them in the long run by having a talent and maybe help them to win scholarships for school.<br />
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My parents would like me to become a pharmacist and at first I agreed to it, but now as a third year college student, I don't believe that working as a pharmacist is my calling. As my faith in God grows, I want every aspect of my life to be about and for Him alone. In my opinion, being a pharmacist would not bring me closer to God. It would only push me further away from him. The amount of hours I would need to work in order to pay off student loans for pharmacy school would hinder me from actively worshiping God. More importantly, my life would become more about money than about using my life to serve God and Money is a god that I refuse to serve. Yes, money is an important tool to survive in this world but the most important and top priority should be and is God. My father told me that being a pharmacist would be better as a first degree to help pay my bills and that I could always go back to school to pursue music later. The reality of the statement is that, it is just not possible. Right now I'm 20. In about, let's say, 6 years I would be done with pharmacy school and working and maybe a year or two later I could be married and then maybe a year after that have a kid ( or maybe twins). With all that going on, I wouldn't have the time to go back to pursue music. I would be working to pay the bills and taking care of a family. This means I would have to wait until I'm in my mid to late 40's before I can pursue my dream? No. I simply refuse. God did not grant us a guaranteed number of years to live our lives. At any moment, it could all be over. Practically speaking, I could die at anytime. I don't want to live a life I didn't want, hoping that there will be time in the future to do what I want or what God wants me to do and then die without having done anything to properly serve Him.<br />
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My advice to everyone, is to look in their hearts and see whether their chosen path in careers is going to bring them closer to God or move them further away from God. Are you having to or going to have to give up your Sundays of church for work? Are you going to have to give up your days of bible study and helping with Sunday school or helping with the choir for work? How would you feel if God decided that he couldn't help you because he had too much work to do? Take a moment and just think about it.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-72625109101089120552012-04-05T03:13:00.000-07:002012-04-05T03:13:40.089-07:00Listen. Don't just hear me.For many years I like to keep my feelings inside because it seems like no matter who I talk to, they don't seem to be really listening or understand or really care. If you're going to ask me what's wrong and act like you want to hear about my problems then do it all the way. Don't start listening and then tune out half way. It makes me feel self conscious, like I'm wasting your time. It also hurts my feelings a bit because I've decided to open up about my issues and now you don't care to hear me out. So if you're going to listen, Listen don't just hear.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-86327933443737016942011-06-18T00:48:00.000-07:002011-06-18T00:48:54.099-07:00African vs African American- The ResponseSo it seems as thou many of you are taking my post in the wrong way. Firstly I am not saying that African Americans haven't accomplished anything nor am I saying that ALL African Americans behave like ghetto people. I have lived in America for over 12 years I went to elementary, middle and high school in this country and I am well aware of the many achievements that African Americans have accomplished. My post was merely to state the way many Africans view African Americans. When you look at African Americans today versus the African Americans of Dr. Martin Luther King's time, they are a very different group of people. Those people were motivated to change their lives and live better. They also wanted better for their children and went to great lengths to do so. Many African Americans in the 21st century are not as motivated and willing to continue living better and striving for better things. Many have become complacent and have become accustomed to their new way of life and for many of them it involves living of welfare and living in ghettos and working in low end jobs. Again I stress that NOT all African Americans in the 21st century behave this way. <br />
Secondly, I am very well aware that there are lazy people who live in Africa. I am very well aware that there are people in Africa who also live in complacency and refuse to better themselves. I am also very well aware the we, Africans, have many shortcomings. I do not dispute any of it, the violence, corruption, etc... However, that is NOT the issue that I am addressing. Someone mentioned how Africans only send our "best" to America and another mentioned how only the rich and wealthy bring their kids to the States. As a person who has lived in Ghana and America, I can tell you that it is not entirely true. The wealthy people have it easier because they have the money and connections to get their children here faster. There are many other middle to low class people who have brought their children to America. If you researched you would know that the reason many Africans aren't flocking to America is because of Visas. Obtaining a visa to America is a long and tedious process if you don't have connections. Merely getting an interview to see if you have a chance to get the visa could take months and when you finally get the interview you could easily be denied for any reason, be it valid or not. As an American you should know how Homeland Security and US Customs are strict about foreigners coming here.<br />
Thirdly, the way Africans judge African Americans is the same way African Americans judge Africans. I can not tell you how many times an AFRICAN AMERICAN (NOT white but black) person has asked me "So Do you guys walk around naked or live in mud huts?" and "Do you hunt lions and ride elephants?" Yes, these questions show how ignorant these people are, but it is because of what they have seen on television. If they actually took a trip to Africa the would see that we live in houses and drive cars and socialize just like they do. The difference between the perspective of Africans on African Americans and vice versa is the Africans I speak of have LIVED with and around African Americans and that is where the base of their perceptions originate. It's not just what they have seen on television, but what they have experienced first hand.<br />
Like I said in my other post, there are MANY African Americans who live in lovely homes and are Doctors, Lawyers and have respectable jobs. The problem is that the percentage of African Americans who live on welfare, and are comfortable being "ghetto" out shines the percentage of African Americans that are well off. <br />
As I also said in my other post NOT ALL AFRICANS feel this way. There are many Africans who could care less about the behavior and perception of African Americans and how it affects them.<br />
<b>Another important reason I forgot to mention in my other post is that the way African Americans behave is a DIRECT reflection on us Africans. Because we are all dark skinned, many (NOT ALL) white people view us in the same light. Like the saying goes "one bad apple can spoil the whole bunch". The "bad" behavior of Africans Americans relates directly to Africans. If an African and an African American both go for an interview, the interviewer can not tell who is African and who is African American unless they speak or specify that they are African or the latter. Therefore they both receive the same preconceived notions or stereotypes which have been formulated against African Americans. This is one of the reasons why Africans lack respect. Africans are already at the bottom of the list in America. It is only recently that we are acknowledged in a good light and that is not even a really significant effort. As a bottom dweller, we already have a hard enough time trying to reach the top without having bad stereotypes of African Americans added on to the list. This is the reason why many African parents don't want their children hanging out with African Americans.</b><br />
<b>This perception may be wrong or ignorant or narrow minded but it is FACT. That is how many Africans see it.</b>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-46934646009097666442011-06-14T00:40:00.000-07:002011-06-14T00:40:34.493-07:00African vs. African AmericanMy friend an I were having a discussion about the differences between Africans and African Americans. Now at a certain point in the conversation I made the comment that many Africans have very little respect for African Americans. My friend is African American and she was a bit offended and didn't understand why I say that and she had heard it from her other African friends as well and she just didn't get it. Over the years many Africans have passed through America and lived with and around many African Americans. It's not that we don't have respect for ALL African Americans, it's just the majority of African Americans. One of the main reasons (in my opinion and that of my parents) is the behavior exhibited by a majority of African Americans. Many of them have authority issues, which means they don't like anyone telling them what to do and how to act, especially adults and people in positions of authority. This to many Africans shows a lack of respect for elders and adults and that is something that is an important value in African cultures, which is respecting your elders and adults. Another reason is the way some African Americans speak and carry themselves. They are viewed to behave without class or manners and speak in an uneducated manner. As a Ghanaian, my country has adopted the British way of etiquette and I am expected to behave like a lady and speak "proper" english and carry myself in way that would impress the Queen of England herself. Another main reason is the environment in which many African Americans live in and the way they live there. People who live in ghettos, sell drugs, wear baggy clothes, join gangs, get pregnant in high school, many don't go to college, many don't even finish high school and very few make something of themselves.<br />
Africans always want what is best for themselves and their children. They work hard and strive to make a better life for their families and to give their children the opportunities they didn't have so that they can become better people. The behaviors of African Americans are the things Africans have seen on tv and experienced first hand and heard through friends or family members. It is a fate that they would give their own lives to avoid their children meeting. Because they don't see any positivity coming from the reasons I mentioned above, they strongly advise their children to keep away from having African American friends.<br />
We all know that not all African Americans behave in those ways. We realize that there are a number of successful, respectful, classy African Americans, who have achieved many great accomplishments. The problem is that, the number of these people is very small and the presence of African Americans who can not and/or will not achieve something better for themselves over shadows the ones who have.<br />
Many of us Africans don't have respect because from our perspective, the majority of African Americans haven't accomplished anything positive and by the way they see it, that is not going to change any time soon. And sadly to say, that is the way it looks.<br />
<b>DISCLAIMER</b>: Not all Africans may feel this way. This is based on what i have heard from many African parents and their children as well as various members of my own family and my own experiences.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-56965530749566576602011-03-21T19:13:00.000-07:002011-03-21T19:13:43.868-07:00The ImperfectionsI have a thing for imperfections...<br />
I love the way your eyes are placed on your face.<br />
I love the way your teeth sit in your mouth.<br />
I love the freckles on your face.<br />
I love the way you scrunch your nose when you smile.<br />
I love how big your ears are and how they frame your face.<br />
I love the gap between your front teeth.<br />
I love how smooth and dark your skin is.<br />
See I have a thing for imperfections...<br />
Things that make you unique and special.<br />
Things that set you apart from everyone in your family and your friends.<br />
Things that make you who you are and define your physical personality.<br />
The imperfections that you crave so much to change are what attracts me to you,<br />
Your crocked smile, your kinky hair, your full lips.<br />
Braces, skin bleach and perms only destroy the beautiful imperfections that God has given you.<br />
Plastic surgery, botox, and expensive beauty treatments only take you away from yourself <br />
You loose yourself in an attempt to seek "perfection"<br />
But you see I have a thing for imperfections<br />
Because <strong>Your</strong> imperfection is <strong>My</strong> perfection<br />
Your crocked smile is what keeps me going<br />
Your dark, smooth sking is what I crave at night<br />
Your full lips are what I desire every time we kiss<br />
So now you know my thing for imperfections<br />
Relax and let me enjoy your im-<strong>Perfection</strong>.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-48589503779732655812010-12-17T21:24:00.000-08:002010-12-17T21:24:38.177-08:00An essential tool for Pharmacy or the Spawn of Satan?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtslCFcpJJBJmeqXmGYJqwVyw5YSURTiPV5nh_cbc8mBRJAb2P1XHZJBbUTQKGmUZUtMObFOZiRgfrlvVc3fJ2cxSm6UxuXRj8yp1HlROLw3i5jIAT3o6uGlaA_JyJ5QD6EbRes1Zwsmw/s1600/Advanced-Organic-Chemistry-Part-B-Carey.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtslCFcpJJBJmeqXmGYJqwVyw5YSURTiPV5nh_cbc8mBRJAb2P1XHZJBbUTQKGmUZUtMObFOZiRgfrlvVc3fJ2cxSm6UxuXRj8yp1HlROLw3i5jIAT3o6uGlaA_JyJ5QD6EbRes1Zwsmw/s320/Advanced-Organic-Chemistry-Part-B-Carey.jpg" width="221" /></a></div>Organic Chemistry is an essential/ necessary subject for all biology/chemistry students...Or is it? Majority of the students who I know have taken this class HATE this class soo much. And now I have joined this club. It's not that I don't understand the concepts. The problem is that it's alot of information for one semester... In one chapter alone there are 16 reactions and mechanisms that have to be memorized and they all resemble each other. There are only subtle differences which have to be memorized and one simple mistake like where the charge goes or where the the molecule is suppose to be could make the whole problem wrong....Anyway, my point is that this class should be made two semesters for each part. Its just too much. My advice to anyone who is going to take this class is that you have to eat, sleep and dream the text book when you take it. It is a ridiculous amount of information and it can be overwhelming.... I think I've lost maybe 5 pounds studying for my final...SMH<br />
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<object height="221" width="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/qGiNCIALX8Q&hl=en_US&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/qGiNCIALX8Q&hl=en_US&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="350" height="221"></embed></object>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-687213100262562982010-08-10T20:14:00.000-07:002010-08-10T20:14:05.631-07:00She's the Black Barbie!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg11RzI4uhVCQ4BndHnNkuVnUeGVNMdemL4eBVCGB6ncEe6paunVNe7uu21EoNvHyQWkjybdfFodwELjzc4t7duxEzdk7TlvPBKyE5F69fECaud3sotgg84YPIlEOeJn40gec_pFMS1LLw/s1600/Nicki-Minaj-LYAF-Test1-e1271021978817.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg11RzI4uhVCQ4BndHnNkuVnUeGVNMdemL4eBVCGB6ncEe6paunVNe7uu21EoNvHyQWkjybdfFodwELjzc4t7duxEzdk7TlvPBKyE5F69fECaud3sotgg84YPIlEOeJn40gec_pFMS1LLw/s320/Nicki-Minaj-LYAF-Test1-e1271021978817.jpg" /></a></div>Nicki Minaj......There are soo many things one can say about this artist. When she first came out I really didn't like her AT ALL... I felt the whole fake barbie thing was a bit too much... But now I've taken the time to actually listen to some of her music and I think she's pretty cool...Her rap game is VERY different from other rappers out there today and she is DEFINITELY not shy to talk about things that upset her or make her happy. Now don't get it wrong I'm not a Minaj fanatic now or anything, I just have respect for her and her craft now.<br />
<object height="221" width="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/pSFyrrhKj1Q&hl=en_US&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/pSFyrrhKj1Q&hl=en_US&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="350" height="221"></embed></object>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-77004981710454953232010-08-02T20:17:00.000-07:002010-08-03T00:13:30.664-07:00Babies= Accessories? umm..WHY?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgY51dHGTi46gbCBJgjNEZhKLe3tqxaBhSB_wL0LdvzaqTNAvX4xwfy7gxLKtG0poaufGpH3zQN-B1ZUaCBN_FIfyb0nIogv6jj2bu87A5HVR9w3_nCNOHrQu_lFkhqVdfGzOcuWw4kxU8/s1600/Teen-Mom-website.jpg"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 281px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgY51dHGTi46gbCBJgjNEZhKLe3tqxaBhSB_wL0LdvzaqTNAvX4xwfy7gxLKtG0poaufGpH3zQN-B1ZUaCBN_FIfyb0nIogv6jj2bu87A5HVR9w3_nCNOHrQu_lFkhqVdfGzOcuWw4kxU8/s320/Teen-Mom-website.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501021903703160898" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-size:100%;">Birth is one of life’s most beautiful events. A child is a blessing (Even thou some of them act like Bebe’s kids..smh). Children are the pride and joy of a parent’s heart and they would die for their child. Back in the day having a kid at a young age, say maybe 16, was a complete disgrace. Girls were even scared to go to school because of the ridicule. Nowadays it seems like a baby has become the new bracelet or purse, basically an accessory; almost everyone I see has one.(WTF?) Girls get pregnant and walk around like it’s nothing. They feel no shame. Infact, many girls are happy to be pregnant. They come to school showing off their bellies like “Yea, I’m having a baby”. Making seem like it’s acceptable to have a baby in </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:100%;" >HIGH SCHOOL</span><span style="font-size:100%;">. And then, there is this dumb show called Teen Mom on MTV, which perpetuates and encourages teen pregnancy. I find that to be absolutely ridiculous. I’ll be damned if I or my child were to ever have a baby in </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:100%;" >HIGH SCHOOL</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> and walk around like it’s all good. Honestly, I partially blame the parents of these girls and the girls themselves. Parents I feel either don’t educate their kids enough about sex and teenage pregnancy or put enough fear in their daughters about getting pregnant. My mom, grandma, aunts and ALL my mom’s female friends put enough fear in me for myself AND my children. I was told if I got pregnant they would kill me POINT.BLANK.PERIOD. Also I’m smart enough to take the necessary precautions to not get pregnant like let’s say using a </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:100%;" >CONDOM</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> or the</span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:100%;" > PILL</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> or maybe </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:100%;" >NOT HAVING SEX AT ALL =ABSTINENCE!</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> Now I understand that sometimes accidents happen but if you are tracking yourself like you should be you can prevent pregnancy. There is something called the </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:100%;" >MORNING AFTER PILL</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> which basically stops the sperm from entering the egg. Girls, in this day and age, there is no reason for anyone to call us stupid and uneducated. Maybe back during the early 20th century, that would have been a valid excuse of “oh I didn’t know”, but it doesn’t count now. Children are a great thing. They are a blessing but there is a time and a place for everything. Kids shouldn’t come until you have a stable job and home and can support yourself and your family.<br /><br />It’s a shame. Many couples in this world can’t even have kids and young girls are just popping them out like it’s a game..SMH</span><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-Mc3dJCndoJ_zhQ-p55oZVf3IVGN3sBFJf5KYMe2ZDMfAEsBPdAx6BQ-F9SeDcDIBYj_udDuU1Mya_tqwaSx2N04fS20HPvV2kDcbk5fM8FkXenOjEPR3YDF5Ns4ynuTp8tS-wkvNirw/s1600/293spearsjamielynn05040co1.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 198px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-Mc3dJCndoJ_zhQ-p55oZVf3IVGN3sBFJf5KYMe2ZDMfAEsBPdAx6BQ-F9SeDcDIBYj_udDuU1Mya_tqwaSx2N04fS20HPvV2kDcbk5fM8FkXenOjEPR3YDF5Ns4ynuTp8tS-wkvNirw/s320/293spearsjamielynn05040co1.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501022231573187986" border="0" /></a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-24498961576015412302010-07-17T19:39:00.001-07:002010-07-18T14:19:58.189-07:00Women, Women, Women.....In my last blog I addressed some of the faults that I saw in men. This blog is now going to address some of the flaws I see in some women. Honestly I don’t know where to begin because women are such complicated creatures that one cannot even begin to understand why we do certain things and I am a woman. I realize that we thrive on emotions and every decision we make is based upon how we feel and as a result different situations affect our behavior drastically (Ok so not drastically but there is a significant affect). I understand that many women have been brought up in different environments and that not every woman is as strong and confident as she should be. This particular blog is directed to females who KNOW better and were taught how to be confident, strong and successful. This is directed to girls who have influential women in their lives, be it friends or family members, who are real WOMEN: strong; confident; classy; educated; etc, and choose to stray from the advice that these women may give them.<br />Women, Why on earth would you allow a man to mistreat you when you know you deserve better? Why would you EVER let a man set a double standard for you and you just go along with it? I mean I’m very sure you have friends who tell you that this guys isn’t right for you and they present logical explanations why, so then why would you stay with this guy? I mean are you unaware that there are other guys out there in this world who will treat you like the queen that you are? Are you unaware that there is a man out there who will love you unconditionally and never put his hands on you or call you out of your name EVER? These men, believe it or not DO exist. A man who will love you and all your flaws; a man who will encourage you to follow your dreams and not bring you down; a man who will be your rock when you need him to be; a man who will be your knight in shining armor; that man exists in his own form for every woman. I say to you my sisters, mothers and friends, do not accept the reckless behavior of uneducated boys. Stand up for yourself. I’m not saying for you to set impossible standards but reasonable ones. Don’t take a man’s behavior as “oh it’s just a guy thing”. BULL FUCKING SHIT!!! There is no such thing. Guys only do certain things because we allow them to do it. If you make it known in the beginning what you will take and what you won’t (subtly of course), I can promise you that what you had in your past relationships will not repeat itself. A few of my male friends told me that a lot of the decisions men make are based on the actions of women. If you respect yourself and you walk through your life demanding respect with your level of education, swag, and presence then NO man will ever try to treat you wrong. And listen to your friends please when they give you reasonable advice. I know there are those friends who are just haters but if you take a second to really think about what your friends tell you I’m sure someone will give you reasonable advice. A couple reasons that I have heard, for women to tolerate such primitive behavior is because they need the man or they love him. First of all, no woman NEEDS a man. We only want them because of the way they make us feel and the companionship. Learning to stand alone is part of being a strong woman. When you can stand on your own two feet without a man to depend upon, in a relationship you won’t be so dependent on him. Secondly, Love is a beautiful thing, however it can be very blinding if you allow it to be. The love of a man is something that is hard to acquire in a lot of relationships. Many men don’t love easily because that’s just their nature but when they really love you, they really LOVE you. When a guy loves you, You can tell. He might do things that are out of the ordinary and surprise you and make you smile. A man who loves you will NEVER put his hands on you EVER!!! Don’t let anyone tell you any different. Nor will he ever call you out of your name, even if y’all are arguing. If a man ever does that then either he has a problem that needs to be fixed ASAP or you are allowing him or he’s just a jerk and you need to exit now ( don’t collect $200 or pass go) You just need to get out.<br />We, women, have many faults but this is a fault that I've seen which is ever so present in, not just in Western societies but also in third world countries where women are born into submissive positions. Women everywhere should not allow any behavior of this kind to happen. I believe that if we allow ourselves to remain in this position and not renew our self esteem and pride, we perpetuate the primitive and classless behavior of some men.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-89092274863098314942010-07-02T02:25:00.000-07:002010-07-02T03:13:58.840-07:00Men....There are many things that I will never understand about men and their behavior. I know that men grow up and different environments and have different experiences that shape their behavior. As a result I know that not all men behave in the same manner. This particular blog is directed to the few men who have "difficulties" in relationships; the men who allow the bad things in their past to shape how they express themselves towards women. In my short years of living, I have learned a lot about how men act towards certain things and how their behavior is "in general".I accredit this to my experiences and the experiences of my older friends. One thing I don't understand is why would you allow your past experiences make you cold and make you build up barriers around your heart and feelings especially towards a woman who had opened herself to you and humbled herself down to show you that you can trust her? Why would u continue to hold back? In a past relationship I encountered a young man whose reactions to certain things, in my opinion, were not "normal". When I asked him to stop a behavior that was hindering our relationship and plainly was either annoying or disrespectful to me he would say well "That's just how I am and I'm not gonna change." And when I would ask if he was put in the same situation would it not bother him, his response was "Nope. It wouldn't." I don't think that is a "normal" response because someone who had "normal" reactions would care about how the problem was affecting me and at least try to change or offer a better solution than just stopping completely. If it was truly upsetting to me, he should be willing to stop completely because that is how a relationship works. It's give-and-take. I compromise and change some things and you do the same. That is how people in a relationship grow and flourish and find deep, true love....<br /><br />If you know that you have no intention on being in a committed relationship with a young woman, why would u string her along and then tell her u need a "break" and offer that you never really wanted a girlfriend in the first place? That is a situation that frustrates me to the core of my being. I believe I can speak for all women when I say, Make your intentions known at the beginning of the relationship. If you know you don't want anything serious, let her know that. If you are interested in something serious but you get scared somewhere along the way, TELL HER!!! Don't leave her hanging and just break it off with some lame excuse because you are afraid. We, women, are all about emotions and feelings and the expression of such things whether we admit to it or not. We like to know what is going on in your heart and head. We also like to know that we are both on the same page as far as the relationship goes....<br /><br />Speaking of a "BREAK". What in the world is a BREAK? In my opinion, a break is ONLY reserved for couples that have gone through it all. Couples who are in the worst part of their relationships and it seems like a break is the only possible answer. All other relationships don't need breaks. If your relationship is going well and you're both getting along, you don not need a break if you decide to get serious. You can take it slowly and have a conversation about both party's feelings. I PROMISE you that taking a break will NEVER show you if you miss someone. It will only tear you apart because if you didn't know, there is always someone out there looking to take your woman. Another man is watching you and hoping you will make a mistake to make room for him to step in....<br /> <br />That brings me to another point. Like I said, men, there is always another man looking for you to mess up. If you have a woman who is trying as hard as she can to be good to you, cooking; cleaning; changing little things about themselves for you, and you treat her with cold emotions and do whatever you want hoping she will just take it as "just men behaving like men", another man will come along and treat her the way you are not and say the things you should be saying to her. Moreover, her friends will talk things in her ear and encourage her to leave you for this "other" man. You know how some friends are. If they don't like you from the beginning they will jump at the chance to get rid of you when the opportunity comes. <br />This is just a few of the many things that I see wrong in relationships. I am NOT saying that women are not also part of the issue. This blog is just talking about some points from a woman's perspective.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2310221755272872034.post-35950568323822920102010-06-28T01:05:00.000-07:002010-06-28T01:53:44.637-07:00The Amazment of American MindsI am an African who has lived in the United States for about 10 years and through out all these years, the questions and comments that I still receive leave me at a loss for words and very frustrated. <span style="font-style:italic;">"So do you ride elephants in your back yard and hunt lions?" "Do y'all walk around naked all the time?" <span style="font-weight:bold;"></span></span>I mean I understand that the reason why people ask such <span style="font-weight:bold;">STUPID</span> questions is because of the perception given by the media. However, the media also shows a different side of Africa ALL the time. Whenever u see advertisements about AIDS in Africa, you don't see little children running around naked all over the place waving at the cameras.(ok so some of the kids are naked, but that's because the chose to be naked at that moment in time) You don't see the families of the AIDS victims sitting around in their "Mud Huts" naked talking to the people helping them out. The reason why I get angry at the <span style="font-weight:bold;">STUPID</span> questions is because America is supposed to be at the forefront of technology and information, yet it seems like the people living in this country do not know how to utilize their resources well. This lack of information I blame on the school system, but that's another blog. I come from a place that I happen to be very proud of. My country, Ghana,(Who just so happen to beat the US a few days ago in the World Cup 2-1,YAY! lol) is one of the few countries in Africa that trying their best to bring the country to the standards we see here in the states and I believe they have done a very good job so far. Ghana has the ONLY mall in West Africa. We do the same things that y'all do here there. We go clubbing, go to school, beach, church, house parties and we do it in clothes that people in this country can only dream of designing. We wear the same clothes y'all do here. We hold political elections, we have a president AND a parliament AND a king. We make all three systems work for us (all by the grace of GOD). Another thing that bothers me is the weather comments. Yea, Africa can get hot at times but not that hot and do you know that in Southern and South Africa it SNOWS? Yea like REAL SNOW! In Norther Ghana we get hail stones. And even when it gets hot we still have a cool breeze ALL the time. All you people who are constantly making rude comments and jokes about Africa I say this to you: 1, Get your facts straight before you come talking about my motherland and STOP being the ignorant loser who doesn't know how to use google. 2, I LOVE my continent and the way it works, if you don't like it well you can go jump off a bridge and kill yourself.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhpw9PNuwfhTVJrAsQy0l54UPLCfqMn3LOkbLSZA8zteQzCZ3BKVqFXtCjC8VQkWfZB2ewUO7FAE_IEUQwZ1oCOe2F8HnMzDBb1oFIlYYLkVPDSOyO-ab_7aoe0v7dsxW9J0BzzUdIZUMU/s1600/Algeria.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 257px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhpw9PNuwfhTVJrAsQy0l54UPLCfqMn3LOkbLSZA8zteQzCZ3BKVqFXtCjC8VQkWfZB2ewUO7FAE_IEUQwZ1oCOe2F8HnMzDBb1oFIlYYLkVPDSOyO-ab_7aoe0v7dsxW9J0BzzUdIZUMU/s320/Algeria.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5487742528547435778" /></a><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYpkAIEPdd-wjt-40bvcX_cBZzdqbeZi4Z5X2hOQblpy3JhFnQgg5cPpEnzZTQMyYkPswG1XdJatsali6HdYemHV0oCAlydCkJJeqSLfKsnAX-DR-mnrU3uPTTlJp4dblAASL1lyvcK_o/s1600/Women.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 218px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYpkAIEPdd-wjt-40bvcX_cBZzdqbeZi4Z5X2hOQblpy3JhFnQgg5cPpEnzZTQMyYkPswG1XdJatsali6HdYemHV0oCAlydCkJJeqSLfKsnAX-DR-mnrU3uPTTlJp4dblAASL1lyvcK_o/s320/Women.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5487743832264444242" /></a><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUd3EzVKFzoyZbm3GSRevur4qsZWPsP_x756Iy21Ruk40p5hLlGXQG_772XskcdDCqMjn2rh0YJ7GF_QoFrkgLnFX_EabCwDt7rWuVLTfLDKpl9x2dw00aFmyfoGMUpiNVWPk26a6Gx2s/s1600/soccer+game.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUd3EzVKFzoyZbm3GSRevur4qsZWPsP_x756Iy21Ruk40p5hLlGXQG_772XskcdDCqMjn2rh0YJ7GF_QoFrkgLnFX_EabCwDt7rWuVLTfLDKpl9x2dw00aFmyfoGMUpiNVWPk26a6Gx2s/s320/soccer+game.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5487744068725253730" /></a><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDgysb2xv8_oaowtIocY7HH_RRNTftHGLC1ct8I_PrMzlVYIpe3zQgRuGpb9Z7KQzpnmuPYrQs9NH_cdoIsN9hiwB8DY2sk8FQHPfQvLMdZ7WWNpFz19oiPYNXeniHXCuhiG0oxM_V7Vk/s1600/morocco.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 256px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDgysb2xv8_oaowtIocY7HH_RRNTftHGLC1ct8I_PrMzlVYIpe3zQgRuGpb9Z7KQzpnmuPYrQs9NH_cdoIsN9hiwB8DY2sk8FQHPfQvLMdZ7WWNpFz19oiPYNXeniHXCuhiG0oxM_V7Vk/s320/morocco.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5487744340957214002" /></a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2